Conflict can kill a marriage over time. So it pays off to learn how to reduce conflict and to learn to argue in a healthy way. Shows like Dr Phil and lots of books and courses can teach you to fight fair and to minimize the damage conflict causes to your marriage.
Learning to manage conflict in a healthy rather than negative way is time well invested in your marriage. However, what if you could stop conflict before it ever reared its ugly head? What if you could reduce conflict at the source, before it creates more damage to your marriage?
There is a way to stop conflict that you can use in your marriage today, within minutes from reading this page. This approach to stopping conflict is one of the most powerful you will ever find, and it is so simple it almost never gets talked about. The way to stop conflict before it gets started is to PLAY more in your marriage with your spouse.
Thats right, Play! Studies have shown the more play there is in your relationship, the less conflict. It makes sense, doesnt it? You got into your relationship in the beginning because you liked to play with your partner. Go to movies, dinner, hikes, share coffee, go dancing, etc. In the beginning we all played a lot with our mates. In the beginning there was more play by far than fighting and conflict.
But then as our relationship continues we work a lot and have duties and obligations and burdens and kids and the play begins to diminish in our marriage. As it goes away conflict increases.
You can experiment with this yourself for the next month. Add play back in with your spouse. Go on at least one date night a week where you enjoy each other and leave the burdens of adulthood aside for a few hours. Begin to have more playful, spontaneous sex occasionally. Carve out a few times a week where you play together.
Increasing the play in your marriage will reduce the conflict. It may be difficult at first, if you’ve gotten out of the habit with each other, but it is fun to change that habit. So spend a little time planning to play and see for yourself how much conflict begins to diminish between you using this little secret.
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