There are many mistakes we can make when trying to get our ex lover back. Two of these mistakes can cause your ex to run in the other direction.
First, we may try to apologize til were blue in the face. Saying Im sorry ten times or a hundred times doesn’t work. If an apology was going to work, one or two would do it. Repeated, earnest, endless apologies don’t work in most cases because there are some things you must do first before you apologize.
To make an effective, powerful apology you need to follow some simple emotional intelligence first. If you did something wrong and your ex isn’t accepting your apology, try these two things before you apologize again. Own up to what you did that was bad or wrong. Accept responsibility. Then, get your ex to get their negative feelings about what you did off their chest.
Look. You’ve broken up. Your ex has a heart. Their heart is filled with bad or mad or sad feelings about you, otherwise they wouldn’t have left you. There is some emotional intelligence you can learn about helping people to vent or release bad feelings. If you can get your ex to release and talk about their bad feelings about what you did it can really create room in their heart for warm feelings towards you again.
Another mistake to avoid is to come across as desperate and needy. When you first date someone, if they came across as desperate, would you want to date them again? For most of us, the answer is no. The same is true when getting your ex back. Texting your ex 20 times a day, stalking them by phone or in person, crying, promising you’ll change can all come across as desperate and needy.
Sure, you feel needy and desperate. Yes, you may sometimes feel like it’s almost not worth living without your ex. That is how heartbreak feels. But you want to keep that to yourself as much as possible and not show up as a needy emotional mess to your mate.
Come across as sad or sorry, depending on your situation, but don’t come across as desperate and hopelessly lost. This just makes your ex pity you instead of want to take you back. It is okay to want your ex back. It is okay to apologize once or twice if you wronged them, and it is okay to tell them how much losing them has taught you valuable lessons.
But dont apologize a hundred times and don’t come across as desperate and like you are an emotional wreck. Avoiding these two mistakes will help you win back your exs heart that much more quickly.
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